I may have been a victim of sexual assault. What should I do? How do I know?

Many people believe that rape and domestic violence do not occur in same sex relationships. It is often believed that sexual violence is a way for a man to assert power over a woman. But, sexual assault can occur in any relationship regardless of the genders involved. Women may use sexual violence as a way to control other women and men to control other men. It is important to treat same sex assault seriously.

Rape is NOT a sexual act. Rape IS an act of control and domination. The rapist uses the act as a way of asserting power over the victim. Sexual assault includes any unwanted sexual activity. Rape does NOT relate to sexual orientation. Rape is not “gay” or “straight”. Same sex sexual assault does not necessarily mean that the victim or the perpetrator is gay. Again, rape relates to power and control.

There is no single or typical emotional response to sexual assault. A survivor may feel calm, rational, angry, depressed, helpless, ashamed, or any other emotion. It is common for survivors to experience self-blame and to feel embarrassed about sexual assault. It is important to remember that it is not the survivor’s fault.

It may be harder for gay and lesbian survivors to come forward when they are sexually assaulted. It may feel as though one is stating to the world that they are gay. Fear of facing homophobia and prejudice may keep gay and lesbian survivors from coming forward in certain situations.